It’s time to Find your Purpose…


Welcome to Find your Purpose

I’m so excited to share my very first issue of Find your Purpose – a newsletter where I will share some of my thoughts and helpful tips on life’s challenges. 
Find your Purpose will cover issues we all struggle with, including:

  • Mindfulness
  • Understanding energy
  • Fine tuning your intuitive skills
  • Holistic approaches to treating to depression and anxiety
  • Using exercise to change neural pathways in your brain
  • Co-parenting in difficult situations
  • And much more…

Today’s Topic: Five Tips for a Joyous Holiday Season

For some, the holidays are a really special time of year but for many others, it can be very challenging and stressful. Whatever you’re facing, I have five tips to help make this holiday season more peaceful and joyous for you.

Tip #1: Open Your Mind
If you’re rigid and inflexible in your thinking, you’re going to struggle. An open and expansive mind allows you to think from a different perspective. And with a new perspective, we can make different decisions for ourselves. What’s the risk? Don’t sweat the small stuff and keep your mind open to what may come.

Tip #2: Reach Out to a Friend
Maybe you’re disconnected from your family or you’re divorced without loved ones nearby. Reach out to a friend and ask for help. Be honest and direct: “Hey, I don’t want to spend the holidays alone. Could I join you and your family for some turkey? I’ll bring dessert!”

Here’s the deal – people like helping other people, and asking for help builds courage and confidence. When you do ask for help, you’re asking for your own needs to be met.  Take responsibility for how the day goes and make the best of it.

Tip #3: Ignore the Calendar 
While Thanksgiving is always the fourth Thursday of November and Christmas is always December 25, you don’t need to celebrate on those days. When I was married, my husband was a police officer and his schedule was always changing. We often didn’t have the opportunity to celebrate with him when the calendar said it was a holiday. We learned how to adapt and make our own holiday – when it worked for us. The exact day didn’t matter. The point was to celebrate together with family and share quality time.

Tip #4: Don’t Even Try to be Martha Stewart
Maybe you’ve had a really challenging year or had a lot of transitions and you just don’t have the energy to devote to decorating your house or hosting the perfect party. No problem! Go with a Charlie Brown Christmas tree. Instead of a full blown meal, think about having it catered, order take-out or get the family together for homemade pizzas.

Like many of you, I enjoy cooking and entertaining but some years I just haven’t had the energy to create an elaborate spread. I found that simply making chili and cornbread allows me to fully enjoy the holidays instead of being stressed out over a meal. And there’s no shame in ordering out. It shouldn’t matter what you serve or how many decorations you put up, it will only create more stress for you. You’ll have so much more time with family and friends watching football, playing games or watching a movie. And that’s what’s really important.

Tip #5: Road Trip!
Maybe what you need is a temporary change of scenery. Science says our consciousness shifts when we travel. So consider a road trip – whether it’s getting on a plane and heading somewhere you’ve never been or going someplace you’ve been a 100 times that you really love. Why not hit the road? There are a lot of inexpensive ways to travel and you can do it on your schedule and make it exactly the way you want it to be. There’s nothing that says it your trip has to look a certain way or cost a ton of money.

One of the best experiences I had this year was over the Fourth of July holiday. The 4th has historically been a tough time for me but this year I took my own advice and hopped on a plane to the Pacific Northwest. It gave me a chance to decompress, take it all in and connect with nature. It was one of the best weeks I’ve had in a really long time. I was in my place, on my terms.

Holidays can be a challenging time for all of us – from the shopping craziness to feeling the pressure of decorating and hosting the perfect party. But it doesn’t have to be! I hope these tips have given you a new perspective on the holidays and ways to make them enjoyable.

Want More Guidance?
If you find that there’s a lot of emotional stuff that comes up for you around the holidays and you just can’t shake it, first know that you are not alone. But also please reach out and call me. Don’t let another holiday season go by only to experience the same stressful and emotionally draining patterns from holidays past.

One or Three Hour Sessions
We can sit down and discuss what you’re struggling with in a 1-hour session or if you prefer, a three hour deep-dive “power session” where we can get into really changing whatever it is that’s getting in the way from you experiencing happiness and peace of mind.

The holidays shouldn’t be stressful. Let’s talk and figure out how we can make them something you actually look forward to.

River Phoenix

P.S. If you are looking for a great holiday movie with a lot of laughs, check out Home for the Holidays.

Share with friends and loved ones.