I Get To!

Overcoming OverwhelmSometimes I find myself feeling overwhelmed at everything I have to do. Maybe some of you feel similarly. There is no doubt that life is much busier and fuller than it was 50 years ago. We have so much to juggle, and it seems like the “To Do” list is never-ending.


My Ah-ha moment

Sunday morning, my alarm went off, and I laid in bed thinking about all the things I had to do for the day. I will spare you the boring list, but it probably looks like yours (grocery shopping, laundry, business stuff, emails, etc.). I wanted to go to the 10:00 am service at Bodhi Spiritual Center, but I felt overwhelmed by what I needed to accomplish (projects, commitments, and goals I have for myself). Then there was also this feeling of just wanted to lay in bed and sleep longer. I needed to make a decision.

Doing things that lift me up

One of the things that have helped me in my life is doing things I don’t want to do, but things that I know are good for me. I have also learned that prioritizing what is most important is a great way to recalibrate to make decisions that serve me. I deeply value going to Bodhi and listening to Rev. Lola Wright or Rev. Gaylon McDowell speak, because it keeps me clear about how I want to live. I am reminded of the Divine in me, around me, and in everyone. So, off to Bodhi, I went! And, as usual, it was a powerful service, and I left with my cup filled. I felt happy, peaceful, and inspired when I left.

When I got home, my neighbor and her sister were out doing yard work, in preparation for her sister’s wedding. I knew they needed help and had a lot of work to do to prepare. I thought about what I needed to… And then I thought about what really matters. My neighbor has become a dear friend, family and a great support to my family and me. I walked over and asked if I could help out. They were happy to have some extra hands in the garden, so I came home and quickly changed into my garden clothes and returned to help pull weeds. While I was pulling weeds, we were all working and together to make the home beautiful. I saw lots of worms crawling around and got dirt under every single fingernail! It was a perfect afternoon.

While I had my hands in the dirt, I had this “Ah-ha” moment. I started off the day thinking about all the things I had to do. “I have to do this, and I have to do that.” Even typing it just feels so draining! It’s not a great attitude to approach the day, let alone life.

I heard this inner voice that said, “I get to.” Hmmm, I thought I get to go to Bodhi Spiritual Center, and I get to help my neighbor, and I get to make dinner, and I get to do lots of things!!! What a profound shift it made on my entire attitude and how the day went.

When we approach our days with an attitude of “I have to,” the energy feels heavy and like things are a burden. Conversely, if we have an approach our day with “I get to” all these things we do become gifts, we are grateful. We know that an attitude of gratitude changes our energy. In fact, one of my teachers taught me to switch to a gratitude practice when I find myself feeling overwhelmed. It is incredible how quickly it works.

Attitude of gratitude 

So the next time you find yourself feeling overwhelmed with all the “have to’s” of life, change your language and thoughts to “I get to!” and see how you feel. I bet you will notice a significant difference in your energy, mindset, and behavior.

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